ME AND MY EXPECTATIONS

We all have a belief system and live according to what we believe. When people enter into relationships, they are usually looking for what they can gain from the relationship, rather than what they can give or bring to the table.   The law of reciprocity says you get what you give or reap what you sow. When you give more, you actually get more.

Having expectations is a good thing because if you don't know what you want, how will you know when you get it, or how will you know you are not getting it? Expectation means: the act or state of looking forward or anticipating; a prospect of future good or profit.

Most of the time, when expectations are discussed in marriage, they tend to focus on what one is expecting from their spouse. Things like: I expect them to love and honor me. I am expecting them to be there for me. I am expecting them to treat me with respect, and the list goes on and on.

But how about the reverse? What are you expecting from yourself? What things are you going to hold yourself accountable for in your relationship?  

Here are 10 things one should consider for themselves and hold themselves responsible for.

I will……….

*Never put anything or anyone before my spouse.

*Treat my spouse with love and respect.

*Listen to my spouse and give them my undivided attention.

*Not hold a grudge. 

*If I do something wrong (and I will), I will ask for forgiveness quickly.

*No matter what comes up, I will stay committed to my spouse.

*Work as a team with my spouse.

*Protect my spouse from all danger, seen and unseen.

*Uplift my spouse, encourage my spouse, and be their number one fan.

*Be the best “me” for my marriage.

When you think of expectations, don't always think about what you are expecting from your spouse. Think about what you are expecting from yourself. After all, you can’t control your spouse, what they do or don’t do, but you can ALWAYS control yourself.